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Quick heads-up: These resources aren’t mine, and I’m not endorsing them—just sharing. I have used each one of them on my journey. Please message me if you notice any of the links are broken. Thank you!
Severence
Severance is a magazine and community for NPEs (people who’ve had a “not parent expected” experience), adoptees, and others who’ve been severed from biological family.
Right To Know
It is a fundamental human right to know your genetic identity. We support everyone impacted by genetic identity issues and loss of genetic continuity from adoption, assisted reproduction, or non-paternal events (NPE).
Hiraeth Hope & Healing
Hiraeth Hope & Healing, Inc. is dedicated to providing a brave and transformative space for those impacted by hidden truths, family separation, and origin loss.
NPE Guide
Helping you navigate your NPE experiences. NPEGuide.com is a helpful guide for new NPEs (Not Parent Expected). Blog with articles relevant to new paternity discoveries.
Who Even Am I Anymore
Who Even Am I Anymore: A Process Journal. For the Adoptee, Late Discovery Adoptee, Donor Conceived, NPE, and MPE Community. By Eve Sturges.
NPE Guide
Helping you navigate your NPE experiences. NPEGuide.com is a helpful guide for new NPEs (Not Parent Expected). Blog with articles relevant to new paternity discoveries.
Podcasts
NPE Stories

“NPE Stories” is a podcast hosted by Lily Wood that features interviews with people who have discovered they are “Not Parent Expected” (NPE), meaning their biological parent is not the person they were raised to believe was their parent. The podcast explores their experiences of finding out, the emotional journey that followed, and how they are navigating life after the discovery, which is often triggered by DNA tests.
Missing Pieces – NPE Life

Hosted and produced by Don Anderson, an Emmy-winning storyteller and NPE himself, the series explores what happens after the discovery — the shock, the search, the healing, and the human connections that follow.
DNA Surprises

DNA Surprises, a podcast that delves into the world of unexpected DNA discoveries. Hosted by Alexis Hourselt. In July 2021, her life took a surprising turn when she found out she’s an NPE-a person who’s experienced a non-paternal event. In other words, her biological father isn’t who she thought he was. Join her as she explores the stories of NPEs, adoptees, and donor-conceived people and their families. Get ready to unravel the astonishing journeys that begin with a simple DNA test —this is DNA Surprises.
Everything’s Relative

Eve Sturges uses heart and humor to explore the changing landscape of modern DNA testing. By talking with others who have had “DNA discoveries,” Eve hopes to change the conversation around secrets, shame, family, and identity.
SEX, LIES & THE TRUTH

Together, Jodi and Christina narrate interviews with real people about their real experiences with shocking DNA revelations like paternity fraud, Non-Paternal Events (NPE), donor conceptions and adoptions, whether discovered by a commercial DNA test or a known disclosure.
Family Twist

Family Twist is a podcast about DNA surprises within the NPE, adoption, and donor-conceived communities.
Books
The Lost Family: How DNA Testing is Upending Who We Are
by Libby Copeland (Author)

by Libby Copeland.
In The Lost Family, journalist Libby Copeland investigates what happens when we embark on a vast social experiment with little understanding of the ramifications. Copeland explores the culture of genealogy buffs, the science of DNA, and the business of companies like Ancestry and 23andMe, all while tracing the story of one woman, her unusual results, and a relentless methodical drive for answers that becomes a thoroughly modern genetic detective story.
NPE* A story guide for unexpected DNA discoveries
by Leeanne R Hay (Author)

Genealogy is a fun hobby until the results of a consumer DNA test reveal a devastating secret. NPE* A STORY GUIDE FOR UNEXPECTED DNA DISCOVERIES is an authentic resource for people uncovering a new identity, their loved ones, and genealogists who encounter NPEs in a family tree.
There is no more fundamental human need than to belong – first to a family, and then to others. My story and research over three years provide information and support to guide readers. Relatable insights and true stories are presented that address the initial shock of discovery, suggestions about communications, new ethnicities, family recognitions and rejections, and the history of illegitimacy.
The Stranger in My Genes: A Memoir
by Bill Griffeth (Author)

Bill Griffeth, longtime genealogy buff, takes a DNA test that has an unexpected outcome: “If the results were correct, it meant that the family tree I had spent years documenting was not my own.” Bill undertakes a quest to solve the mystery of his origins, which shakes his sense of identity. As he takes us on his journey, we learn about choices made by his ancestors, parents, and others, and we see Bill measure and weigh his own difficult choices as he confronts the past.
I Had My Underwear On The Entire Time
by Michael Blair (Author), Amy Blair (Author)

I Had My Underwear On The Entire Time: A Memoir of Discovering Family through Genetic Genealogy.
I Had My Underwear On the Entire Time is a book about secrets. It’s the story about a forty-five-year-old mystery that gets unearthed and the aftermath that follows. This book is for those who carry secrets and also for those who are the keepers of secrets. It is also for the few who seek answers to their own mysteries. I Had My Underwear On The Entire Time can serve as a guide to those on a quest and it showcases the author’s successes and missteps along the way. This book may motivate people who find themselves in a similar situation and may prove that they are not alone.
DNA – Did Not Anticipate
by J Steven Osborne (Author), Becky Brower Osborne (Author)

DNA – Did Not Anticipate: How one man’s search for his roots changed his past, future, and definition of family.
A true story of Cincinnati native, J Steven Osborne, who began a search for his Native American ancestry in 2021. Through a DNA test, he discovers a first cousin in Prince Edward Island, Canada – a near impossibility given his Kentucky-based heritage and family. The DNA test he had taken was intended to detail his genetic makeup, but it delivered more information than he ever bargained for.
When You Shake the Family Tree
by Margo Reilly (Author)

When You Shake the Family Tree is a vulnerable sharing of Margo’s search for self. An emotional quest of connecting the dots that suddenly made her whole life make sense. Rejection and family secrets were themes she knew all too well. Her jaw-dropping DNA discovery journey will force you to grab your tissues and question whether you’ve been told the truth by your family.
The NPE Journey Journal: A Path to Healing
by Alicia Hamblin (Author)

NPE Journey Journal: A Path to Healing
This three-part prompt journal is designed for individuals on an NPE (Not Parent Expected) journey, offering gentle guidance for navigating discovery, reflection, and healing. Through carefully crafted prompts, this journal helps you process emotions, explore your personal story, and build a path toward understanding and acceptance. Whether you’re at the beginning of your journey or further along, the NPE Journey Journal is a supportive tool to help you find clarity and strength. Embrace your story and take steps toward healing with each page.
Uprooted
by Peter J. Boni (Author)

Uprooted: Family Trauma, Unknown Origins, and the Secretive History of Artificial Insemination
By his forties, Peter J. Boni was an accomplished CEO, with a specialty in navigating high-tech companies out of hot water. Just before his fiftieth birthday, Peter’s seventy-five-year-old mother unveiled a bombshell: His deceased father was not his biological father. Peter was conceived in 1945 via an anonymous sperm donor. The emotional upheaval upon learning that he was “misattributed” rekindled traumas long past and fueled his relentless research to find his genealogy. Over two decades, he gained an encyclopedic knowledge of the scientific, legal, and sociological history of reproductive technology as well as its practices, advances, and consequences. Through twenty-first century DNA analysis, Peter finally quenched his thirst for his origin.
Inheritance
by Dani Shapiro (Author)

Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • From the acclaimed author of Signal Fires and host of the hit podcast Family Secrets: a memoir about the staggering family secret uncovered by a genealogy test, an exploration of the urgent ethical questions surrounding fertility treatments and DNA testing, and a profound inquiry of paternity, identity, and love.
Ancestry Discoveries
by Annette L Becklund (Author)

Ancestry Discoveries: What Happens Under the Sheets Doesn’t Stay There -This is a story of how I, at age fifty-seven, discovered a family secret by taking an Ancestry.com DNA test. I was eager to explore my lineage. Would I discover a Native American heritage? Was I royalty? Was I related to Lucille Ball? Carol Burnett? Anything seemed possible!
What I discovered was that my father-who raised me, walked me down the aisle, sang with me at the piano, and whom I adored-was not my biological father at all.
I am an NPE (Not Parent Expected) or MPE (Mis-attributed Parental Event) person. As much as 30% of the world may share this identity. Thanks to recreational DNA testing, the secrets and lies are exposed, with numbers increasing.
The Milkman’s Son
by Randy Lindsay (Author)

The Milkman’s Son: A Memoir of Family History. A DNA Mystery. A Story of Paternal Love
Raised in a family he bore little resemblance to, Randy was jokingly referred to as the “milkman’s son.” This warm and candid memoir chronicles the unraveling of a family secret, which begins with Randy’s dad having dreams about deceased relatives urging him to complete their family tree. Randy agrees to help with the genealogy, but after his searching leads to a dead end, he takes a commercially available DNA test. The results reveal a possible genetic match to a sister, which begins a familial quest that forever changes the author’s life.
The Record Keeper
by Allison Lawrentz Barnhart (Author)

The Record Keeper: The Unfolding of a Family Secret in the Age of Genetic Genealogy.
The Record Keeper is a true story about three generations of DNA, genealogy, and memory. In this touching personal narrative, Allison seeks to understand how family and friendships, motherhood, and marriage can be torn apart by betrayal and abuse–yet mended together with an imperfect beauty by forgiveness, time, and love.
Articles
Grief & Loss Therapy
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Communication Challenges
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Life Transition
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Intergenerational Trauma
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Parent-Child Relationship
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Depression & Identity Issues
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My Approach
Healing Begins With Acknowledging The Problem

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